It comes to that time in one’s life when the clock stops, the world disappears and all you know is this one person in your life that seems so special than the rest of us. You wanna see them every other second; you wanna talk to them endlessly. You unreasonably and stupidly want them around every other second. So you ask, what is wrong with this? …and I say absolutely nothing wrong! Having such feelings is pretty human, I too live in this planet and I know how good it feels. However there is everything wide of the mark when you want to believe that this person is an angel and that they are everything that you have never found in anyone else including your other friends. It is very off beam not to bother enquiring more of the person from third opinions especially friends. Assuming that they feel the same way as well or that they will not end up like the last person in your life is equally suicidal.
So, who says so? Mmm… Nobody else.. may be just me..! I have come to believe that experience is the most inhuman teacher at times yet the most sobering. Luckily enough I was fortunate to learn this from some episodes in my friend’s life. It was heartbreaking to see my friend go through the soap opera of her life. Having introduced him to friends and family, the relationship did not last even ½ a year. He was too heartless to even bother to explain why he had to call it off. In the following few months he had moved on with a ‘new catch’….and the rest is history. It is so unfortunate that most of the crucial things highly affecting our lives are never taught in a classroom yet we are expected to learn. Ever wondered why no topic has ever taught you what to do when you like someone so senselessly and your greatest fear is not them but yourself that you just can’t trust? Interesting my friend found a new squeeze immediately and as usual family and friends were introduced to this new guy! I was as mad as hell! Anyway don’t mind about me….and the story continues… Whoever said Love was blind knew what they were referring to. Why is it so obvious to those at a distant yet a mystery to the one in it? Don’t you think it is important to take time and learn a person before you single them out of the crowd? How on heaven’s sake do you introduce 5 different people to your grandmother in a span of 3 years? Think about it! So what am I saying? Just before you introduce to us that 6th character, please take time and be a little bit sure. Do not risk your grandmother’s heart again! You will also avoid unnecessary explanation on ‘what happened’. But all the same this is part of life and it has to move on either way. We all learn through experiences. My friend has had to learn a number of things from my different self inflicting experiences too. So I aint the angel here! Lucky are those who are keen to learn from other people’s experiences. Please learn if you can!
It is said that even the worst person in the society has some positive influence to show. At least children will be told, please don’t grow to be like so and so’ . The most important decisions are not to be made with the mind; they are to be made with the heart. So the next time you have that important decision to make, check in with how you feel, not how you think. A third opinion will be necessary too since a person heart can be deceitful!
Written By: Ndunge Wa Muthuka (Dinah Muthuka)
Email: dmuthuka@gmail.com
Website: http://www.youngjewels.org
Waitin for season 2 of the above... An am wondering if that ride from Kinyui chat has anything to do with this :-D
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ReplyDeleteJust gone through your article and i would be honest to say its so true what you have written and you know something else a Person is never yours until God Says So... So some people are meant to hurt us so that the one God will bring to you, you will hold them so dear and love them than before counting this is the match that you will connecting Day in Day out without feeling bored tired and always looking forward to see them.