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Friendship is Valueless


Do not get offended just because it rained in the morning and you did not have a car to take your to work. Rather appreciate the fact that the weather was not 40c . It could have been worse. Now this is just as it is . The same sea that can be breath taking today can still turn out to be a tsunami tomorrow. That's just the way things are. The same friend that was happy for you yesterday could turn out to be your worst nightmare at some point.

My point ; just smile despite all. Look at the positive side of events. Look for a different boat to get to the other side. Do not allow things that are beyond your control to hold you hostage! Take that leap of faith and set yourself free. And while on the other side mind your own tiiiiii business. Life can be tough at times. Things may not turn out as we always plan and this can be sightly frustrating. All the same look at the positive side of the situation. Am not down playing some serious facts...of course it is tough when your friend today turns out to to be a stranger tomorrow. That does not mean they were never a friend. May be they were..... Maybe they were but you no longer the same, maybe they were but circumstances changed... May be they were but you became too boring for them... Just may be it was all just for a season or a lesson. Look at the positive side.

Now I have come to learn anybody can change to be anything they choose to be.Circumstances make people change...get bitter ...and finally get really hurt. Hurting people hurt others. Its not easy to cope with all the cares of this world. Circumstances out of our control cause people to change. Its a competitive world and once in a while people gauge themselves with others. Which is very wrong. They keep wondering why on earth you got all they need... It is not really easy on them...or rather... "Us"... We are just Fighting some battles...its not your fault its the fact that we are suffering from the disease of unhealthy competition. While you bank with the high end bank ... we somehow found ourselves with a bank on receivership, You are barely our age group and on your forth job while we are on our first and promotion is not forthcoming. We are on our 6th relationships in less than two years while you now walking down the aisle. We are living above our means while you always got that extra cash to take great holiday. You got solid friendships while all we got is a few colleagues who at times talk shiet* behind our backs. You are sober and content with it ... While we are always high and fake happiness behind the influence. And the list is just endless. So anytime you smiling we* are hurting.

So often we find ourselves in similar situations ; a very unfamiliar ground. Just make sure to keep a positive attitude and smile as long as it is beyond your control. Friendship is valueless just do what you have to do to keep your true friends. Any time you find the relationship strained be the first to say I am sorry and further ask what you could do to change things. A true friend however mad they are will listen to you. If they do not give you a chance that's okay too. Its beyond your control now. Just keep a smile and relax. Wish then well even when its obvious that their intentions or actions are otherwise. They are still a friend ; a friend that changed their mind and friendship is valueless!

"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive,and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."

Wa Muthuka

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